How to Solve Your "Unsolvable" Problems

"I can't. I'll always be this way. It's just part of my personality. Its who I am, I can't change that."

EW omg I am cringing at those words. Those are the words I literally said out loud the night before I started this challenge. I legitimately believed that there was nothing I could do. Deep down I knew I could, but the thought of making the change scared me so much and gave me so much anxiety that I had never done it before. Then I decided "it eez what it eez Gracie, you just gotta suck it up and do it," and I did it. and you are gonna do it too.

Too many times I have heard about people finding "solutions" to their problems that don't fix anything. Like getting drunk, sleeping all day, always looking for or having to have a girlfriend or boyfriend, posting their pity story on social media, or just straight up complaining.

All of us have most likely been there, and we have realized that those things don't work. So why continue to do the same things if you know they aren't going to make you happy? By doing these things they are teaching you how to be helpless. Well YEET that lie out of your head because you are not helpless. You are not out of control, and you are in charge of making your life better. It's time to stop thinking about the what ifs, and be like nike and just do it. There are always a million reasons not to do something. Stop listing those and start listing the reasons why you should do something.

Maybe you're reading this just because you're trying to be a supportive friend. Or maybe you're reading this because you are like how I was: wanting life to get better. If this is you, then congratulations, you're about to love life.

The first step is identifying what your problem is. This sounds bad, but sometimes life can just suck and we don't know why. Sometimes we can just be sad, angry, or anxious and we don't know why. For me I realized that letting people walk all over me actually disturbed my happiness more than if I would have spoken up. After some discussion with my friend I found my problem areas. Number One: I didn't know what I wanted. I always agreed with other people, but I didn't know my own opinions or desires or goals. Number Two: I couldn't stick up for myself when someone said something that made me upset. I certainly couldn't stick up for what I wanted either, since I didn't know what that was. So what are your problems? Think about your interactions throughout the day. How do your actions impact your mood? How does your reactions to other people's actions impact your mood? What causes your negative emotions?

Maybe you're like me and you find it hard to speak up. Maybe you have lost your ambition and just wait for life to go-on. Maybe there was an event that caused you to give up. Maybe your meanness has caught up to you. Maybe your anger has ruined relationships. Maybe some girl or boy broke up with you and now you're convinced you'll be alone forever. Whatever it is, you can make life fun again I promise.

Instead of dwelling on your problems start asking, "how will i fix it?" come up with practical things you can do throughout the day to make it better. Small steps are still steps. Look at my other page for "how to start your challenge" and complete the journaling step each day. This way, you are always thinking about how to solve your problem and how you could have improved that day. If you need help coming up with practical steps or methods, contact me and I will be more than glad to help you :)

My next piece of advice is to make everyday an adventure. Plan something out so you can at least have something to look forward to. And don't make excuses. You don't need money or friends to have a good time. Find a new hobby or something you enjoy and go do it. Even if its something small, like going to the gas station to get slushies. You can go hiking, make art, plan to have a friend come over, read books, play some music, start a business, wash your car, do a photoshoot, take a class online, exercise, or deep clean your room. If you have a car or a close friend, planning random day trips are awesome. Go to some little mountain town or sneak in a picture of y'all in cracker barrel and hang it up. Having fun is easy but you have to try.

In addition to adding an adventure to your agenda, you should have an agenda lol. I plan out every single thing I'm going to do each day, and when I'm done I feel so accomplished. Wake up early, and get started because once you start this you will realize you don't have enough time in the day to do everything that you want to do.

Spend some time with God. If you have nothing else, you have God. And he is a source of constant joy that doesn't fade or run out. Everything else in this world will only give you temporary happiness, but the joy of the Lord is what gives us strength.

If you have tried everything else and it hasn't been working, why continue to try the same things. Challenge yourself. Push yourself to become the people you look up to. You are either always moving forwards or going backwards, you get to decide which direction you are going. Don't let helplessness become a habit, and remember I am always here for you if you need help :) I love you all mwuah <3