Take One Step in the Right Direction

Hey guys omg it's literally been one year and two days since I last posted something on here haha. Sometimes I forget that I even made this but every once in a while I’ll remember. Summer is coming up, which is one of my favorite seasons ever because I can focus on building new habits and being a material gworl boss kween, and spending time with my friends without worrying about school. Ever since my original 90 Days Program in 2021, I have always thought of summer as kind of a “reset.” In 2021 my reset was focused on finding out what I want, standing up for myself, and voicing my opinions. In 2022 I tried to focus on friendships, relationships, and soaking up all my time at home. This summer I don’t necessarily have a “theme” in mind, but I really am trying to branch out and try new things this summer. One of them being Muay Thai which I am super excited about, but in addition to that I’m taking two online classes, babysitting, and hopefully going back to leading worship at my home church. All of that to say, that is not what I originally had planned for this summer and that is what I wanted to write about.

As of two months ago, my plan for the summer was to stay in Tifton to take some classes over the summer. I absolutely love my college, and I wanted to try and get ahead with my classes and stay close to my horse and boyfriend at the time. For those of you that know me, you know that I had to make the difficult decision to end my relationship with my boyfriend of a year and a half. After we split, I decided I wanted to be close to my family for the summer since he was one of the only people I would know in Tifton during the summer. Leading up to the breakup I was a hot mess. I knew well before we broke up that it was time to end things, but I had so many concerns that were preventing me from doing it sooner, summer being one of them. I knew that if we broke up, it would have more consequences besides the relationship ending. We boarded our horses at the same stables, we had the same friend group, attended the same church and gym, ate at the same places, were very close with each other’s families, and not to mention that he moved to Tifton for me. If I’m being honest, I wasn’t struggling with ending things because I was scared of making a mistake, I struggled so hard because I knew once I ended things I would have to start over.

I was prepared to be single, but in my mind I was so overwhelmed about how I was going to alter the rest of my daily life. The devil really got a hold of me and was trying to tell me how I would lose all my friends, would never ride my horse again, wouldn’t be able to go to church anymore, and that I would spend my summer alone in Tifton with a random roommate. But all of those things are lies, and everything turned out to be for the better. I finally decided to bite the bullet and break things off, and I was honestly prepared for the worst. I will remember when I told my mom and she immediately thought of the same things I did. She knew that I would be worried about my horse, my summer plans, the gym, and all of that. But what she said to me really stuck out to me. After her saying she was proud of me she said, “You took one step in the right direction, and the rest will follow. Just make one good decision at a time.”

After she said that, I realized that if you are overwhelmed by the consequences of a decision, just remind yourself that it is better to make the right decision and work out the rest than to make the wrong decision out of fear. When you’re stuck on a decision, always look to scripture first. Think about your situation from a Biblical perspective. Pray about the situation from a Biblical perspective. Seek wise counsel from those with a Biblical perspective. And most importantly, be in the word! God’s word is the best tool that we have when it comes to discernment. So often the world will tell us, “just pick whichever decision you have the most peace about.” That is a dangerous trap to assume that God’s will couldn’t possibly involve us being uncomfortable. But that is how we grow, and that is how we ultimately become refined to be more like Christ. God calls us to do many things in life that seem scary or uncomfortable to us, but these things are what is pleasing to him and his will. We cannot simply go off what “feels right,” because by nature our hearts are deceitful. If you are overwhelmed with a decision, make the choice that best aligns with scripture and the rest will fall into place. If it is in accordance with scripture, you have to trust God’s sovereignty and his plan for your life. No “consequences” from any decision are too big for God to handle; you can’t mess up his plan for your life.

Don’t allow the devil to tell you that the right decision isn’t worth it. In my circumstance, I am now going back home this summer and I am so excited to be with my family and hometown friends. My horse is being well taken care of when I’m gone, I’m still in the gym constantly, and I have loved visiting new churches. And through this whole thing I have realized how much love and support I have from my friends. Even though the initial decision was intimidating and uncomfortable, it was the right decision. I could have stayed longer in an attempt to avoid the consequences, but that ultimately would have done much more harm than good. So in conclusion, focus on making one good decision at a time according to scripture, and God will help put the rest into place. As always, y’all are more than welcome to reach out if there are questions or anything you want to talk about!